Friday, August 16, 2019

40 Days to Prayer: Day 1

"And this is the confidence that we have in Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, he heareth us:" 1 John 5:14 KJV


I think this is one of the most important verses on prayer. There is a lot to break down, here, and really pay attention to. First, we have to ask ourselves, do we have confidence in Him? I'll wait...

As a person used to relying 90% on myself, my confidence in people not to disappoint me is low. I know that is a sad statement, and one I wish I didn't have to make, but it's not entirely without merit. I have a lot of confidence in my husband. After nearly 23 years together, I can honestly say he is the one person that I know I can rely on almost all of the time. He is human, though, and we all make mistakes and have failings. That's why God is there. He is not human, He is God. This is an important aspect to remember when we talk about having confidence in Him. 

Has God ever failed you? 

If you answered, "Yes," then you are probably one of the people that have asked something in prayer, wanting so badly for your prayer to be answered in the way you hope, only to lose the thing or person you prayed for so hard. Disappointment and disillusionment over who God is and whether He truly loves you may have even pulled you away from Him in pain and discouragement. Does this sound familiar? 

At times, I have answered "YES!" and sunk into a feeling of abandonment and betrayal. Almost a year ago my husband had a heart attack, which led to a triple bypass surgery, complications afterward, and a 2 week stay in the hospital. Two weeks of sleeping on a pull out chair with a blanket and tears streaming down my face in fervent prayer that he would be healed and recover. Prayer that he wouldn't have to have surgery. When he did, prayer that it would turn out okay and he would recover quickly. The surgery went well, but the complications afterward nearly tore me apart with worry and fear. I felt that God had turned his back on me and for some reason was taking it out on my husband. For weeks afterward, even when he was finally back home, I refused to speak to God. If He could no longer hear my prayers and caused that kind of suffering, why did I need Him? I had lost all of my confidence in Him. 

But what brought me back to Him was his revelations to me that he HAD answered my prayers. Maybe not right at that moment, in exactly the way I had asked for them, but in that my  husband was standing next to me, still alive. He still has issues from the surgery. But I've been blessed with another year of him in my life and in the lives of our children. We are making new plans. 

Do you have confidence in God? Do you trust Him? Has he broken your confidence? Can you look back and see where He left His fingerprints in your life to give you the best possible outcome? 

According to His will

Ah, now here is the kicker. How are we, mere humans, supposed to know what is God's will? We don't. We never will. Think on the Lord's prayer. Even Jesus says, "Your kingdom come, your WILL be done, on earth as it is in Heaven." Luke 11:2. And Jesus' most heartfelt prayer on the night before his crucifixion, "My father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will." (Matthew 26:39) and a second time, "My Father, if this cannot pass unless I drink it, YOUR WILL be done." (Matthew 26:42) He went back a third time and prayed the same prayers, knowing all the while that he, Jesus Christ, was the ONLY one that could take on the sins of men and die as the ultimate sacrifice. He knew this, yet He prayed. 

We do the same things. We pray for things, hoping they may come to fruition. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. I had prayed and prayed for years for a new home, but it was not in God's will at that time for it to be. When it was time, when it was His will, it was. As for my husband, it was God's will that he survive and come home. It was his will that he walk for a little longer on this earth beside me. However, it was also His will that our bond and husband and wife be made stronger through this tribulation. His will that my husband learn to rely on me and our children after being a provider and fount of strength for many years. Also His will that I take a journey of learning to rely on God, even when the answer is not how I wanted it, and that His love for me does not change or go away, but that as a good father, He must teach me. 

He Heareth Us

Yes, he does. Even if it does not seem like it as times, He hears us. God forsook Christ for the briefest of moments when all of the world's sins were manifested in Him. God could not look upon sin and had to turn his face from his son. Jesus felt it the moment that He did. He cried out upon the cross that moment. 

But God perfected His son in every imaginable way. The grief and suffering were nothing compared to the glory that Christ received upon entering His father's kingdom. To this day, the name Jesus Christ is recognizable and known and revered. 

One day, we will also stand in this glory. Everything we suffer now is of no consequence compared to that glory in heaven. We will be denied a momentary gift, decision, or loss of suffering so that we may participate in the revelation of holiness that is to come. That is why Jesus died. He broke down the barrier that stood between us and God, so that we could enter into His courts with petitions and ask anything we will of Him. He sees each and everyone of His children through His son. Christ petitions on our behalf. We can fall to our knees in prayer, and He hears us. This is the insight that I gained through my own petitions and perceptions of refusal and failure. God does not fail. 

In Summary

Be confident in your prayers and ask that God's will be done in every aspect of your prayer life. Learn to accept that some prayers will not be answered in the way that you hoped, because it is God's will. But always know, that every prayer is heard. Every whisper, every breath, every groaning of your heart is heard. I pray that you will hear these words today and if you lack confidence in God, your heart and soul will be renewed. 

Amen. 


A Quick Intro

About 3 years ago I started this blog with the intent to record my reflections on 40 day journeys with Christ. At the time, I was praying hard for a new home purchase we were pursuing. It was our first home purchase after 19 years of renting. God granted our petition and we are still enjoying our beautiful home and all it has to offer.

Somewhere along the way I lost focus and my prayer life and my walk with God slowly came to a fork in the road, where I chose the path full of hazards, tangles, and pitfalls. I forgot that my Savior walked with me yielding a machete and guidance around the really bad stuff and I took on the struggle all by myself. However, being the God that He is, He has continued to allow me to push through in my headstrong manner, getting my cuts and bruises, occasionally asking for His assistance, and then fighting through on my own again.

For three years I have fought. Now I am tired. Now I am ready to allow Him to carry me.

I am not broken. I am not lost. I am simply stubborn.

My stubbornness is an attribute that He gifted me with and it has given me willpower and perseverance in many circumstances. It is what makes me square my jaw, jut it out, and dare the world to take its best swing. It is this same stubbornness that I have to learn to put aside and allow God to care for me and guide me.

I learned to rely on myself at an early age because my mother, God rest her soul, was too weak to fight for herself, let alone me and my siblings. She allowed my dad to rule over our family with hurtful words and demands that no one could accomplish. The very fact that I was a girl was enough to incur disdain. I vowed never to let another man rule over me.

My fight against Christ's calling was no different. It took me years of planted seeds and questions, refusals and dismissals to listen to His call. When I did, I remember raising my fist to Him in a room by myself and saying, "I do not need another Father! I do not need another man to tell me what to do!" He knew I didn't need that and my reliance on Him would come from a place of love and acceptance despite my independence and stubbornness. Only Christ could call me to Him and find a way through the walls of my heart to be One in Him.

Eventually, He did. But He also knew the long road before us, fraught with my unwillingness to lean on Him, and my habit of doing it myself and plunging forward with plans I hadn't yet discussed with Him. (I do the same thing to my poor husband as well.)

So I will not make a stand and say, "From now on..." because He knows me better. I know me better. And only He knows the road ahead of us. However, I will say, "I will try harder." So this blog is for that very purpose: To share with you the thoughts and failings of a 40-something mom of 5 kids, wife of 21 years, personal trainer and fitness enthusiast, and hard-headed follower of Christ. 

40 Days to Prayer: Day 1

"And this is the confidence that we have in Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, he heareth us:" 1 John 5:14 KJV...